MOTHERS: Are you tired of screaming, yelling, begging your grade school children to cooperate?
Imagine understanding WHY children misbehave and HOW to transform misbehavior so your child cooperates the first time.
Imagine learning a powerful, yet simple self-help technique to eliminate fears.
Are bedtimes a "nightmare" at your house?
Imagine knowing your child's individual strategy for good sleep patterns.
Children's Misbehavior
Children's misbehavior is a form of communication. Children misbehave because that's the only way they know how to communicate. When their basic needs are met, there is no reason for misbehavior.
Children need to belong, to feel loved, powerful and valuable, to know that they have a place. They need to experiment, to explore.
If my child is misbehaving, I, as a parent, have discouraged my child. I need to find ways to make my child feel they belong, they have a place, they are lovable, valuable and powerful. I need to see things from my child's point of view.
*You will learn how EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) can eliminate your child's fears, nightmares or upsets
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is an energy healing technique used to neutralize fears, phobias, anger and much more painlessly and quickly. This highly effective method is like acupuncture, but without the needles. EFT involves using your fingers to gently tap on various points on your face and upper torso. The points are on the acupuncture meridians--channels of energy coursing through our bodies. EFT has no harmful side effects and can be learned by anyone, even children. Most people experience complete and long lasting results.
"The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system." Gary Craig, Founder of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
Your body's energy system is like any hand held electronic device such as a tape recorder. The batteries must be installed correctly. If the polarity is reversed, you can experience physical problems, self-defeating negative thinking, emotional upsets, to name just a few unpleasant outcomes.
As Karol Truman says in her book, "Feelings buried alive never die",
"These buried feelings are very real. They are energies in and of themselves. They are alive, living, and constantly affecting you. These buried feelings have a personality, and these feelings that have been buried alive will, of necessity, have to manifest themselves sooner or later." www.healingfeelings.com
EFT addresses reversed polarity and allows the body's energy system to balance, realign and heal itself. By teaching your children EFT at a young age, they can release feelings quickly in the moment and not have to "bury their feelings alive". As someone who has spent thousands of dollars on counseling and therapy to achieve the same end, you can imagine how grateful I was to be introduced to EFT. I wish EFT had been around when I was growing up! I am oh so grateful for EFT in my life now.
One of my clients, Audrey R., of Oakland, California had this to say:
"Whenever I come across some imponderable item in my life, I turn to Cristofir. I am given a quote or something else to read or wording with EFT tapping to help me move along my path. She has the insight to bring up exactly what I need at this point in time to move me in my own direction or perhaps show me another way to go. Whatever she suggests, it works for me.
Cristofir comes to her position in counseling and coaching with a secure feeling not only that she knows her client, but she also knows herself and her background and how to handle the problem."
*YOU WILL REDUCE STRESS IN YOUR DAILY LIFE
Just about everyone and anyone can benefit from EFT! EFT can help relieve emotional pain, reduce the stress of family life, break self-defeating habits.
Please visit this link to order "EFT for Parents" by Karen Curry, which outlines EFT phrases to use in a variety of typical family situations.
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"It's one thing to feel lousy. Yet it's even worse to feel lousy about the fact that you feel lousy....When you can accept your feelings...those feelings lose their power over you.
Your feelings are yours for a reason. They can tell you much about yourself...Yet when you become a hostage to your feelings, craving certain ones and dreading certain others, even the pleasant feelings lose their positive value." Ralph Marston, Daily Motivator www.greatday.com
And that, my friends, is where EFT comes to the rescue! Teaching your children to tap any time they have strong feelings allows those feelings to be released quickly. Plus EFT is great for you as well! Imagine a way to calm yourself in stressful situations. It's when feelings get stuck or trapped in our energy system that they become painful memories, affecting our present AND our future in some very unpleasant and limiting ways.
Debra C. of Oakland, California had this to say about my EFT session with her:
"It is with great pleasure that I relate my personal experience working with Cristofir Aven as a Life coach and counselor. I recently experienced a very unusual situation in which I was experiencing very specific emotions and I could not logically identify where they were coming from. However, I was very clear that I had experienced them before in a similar situation. But why? The impact was so strong that I was unable to function in my personal life or work area. I did not understand the reason for them or where they were coming from. After a short explanation of what I was feeling and Cristofir immediately identified a key word and we began a clearing-using EFT.
*YOU WILL LEARN YOUR CHILD'S UNIQUE STRATEGY FOR GOOD SLEEP
Have you ever wondered what makes you so special and unique from the other people around you? The Human Design System, a new synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science can help you understand the beauty and the power of just who you really are and who your children are.
Human Design is a relatively new system of personality analysis. The charts of each family member, calculated from birth date, birth time and place, provide very specific knowledge about personality traits, health, including good sleep patterns, talents, wisdom, vulnerabilities and relationships with other family members.
There is a steadily growing body of scientific validation for the Human Design System. For more information on the scientific studies and validation, please visit www.unifiedlifesciences.com The Human Design System shows uncanny accuracy in describing the personality traits of individuals. There are exciting opportunities for applying the Human Design System in modern medicine, psychotherapy and Family Coaching.
*YOU WILL LEARN TO APPRECIATE, SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD'S UNIQUENESS
The easiest way to begin benefitting from Human Design concepts is to know your Type and to follow the correct strategy for your Type. In the Human Design System there are five personality Types, each with a unique strategy for making decisions and processing energy. Knowing your Type can help you develop confidence and trust in your capacity to make reliable decisions for yourself.
The five Types are: Manifestor, Manifesting Generator, Generator, Projector and Reflector. Each Type has a different natural role to play when interacting with others and the world. And, of course, the tremendous value of knowing your Type as well as the Types of each person in your family simplifies just exactly where to pinpoint the EFT to be of maximum benefit.
The Human Design System and Your Family
The Human Design System is a very deep and complex personality assessment tool. There is a simplicity to Human Design that makes it instantly useful to you as a parent.
All the depth and power that was imprinted on you at the time of your birth can be lived out gracefully by simply knowing and living the strategy of your Type. And just think how valuable that kind of information is about each member of your family. Imagine how much more loving support you could give your child to live out his or her correct strategy, including their strategy for good sleep patterns.
Nancy L. of San Ramon, California had this to say:
"Cristofer Aven is a brilliantly intuitive coach. Her vast knowledge of many strategies makes her a very valuable tool for healing. In a caring, supportive, non-judgmental way, she has helped me and many others to gain spiritual healing at a very deep level. The extraordinary work that she has done with me has helped me heal many deep spiritual wounds. I value the work that she does immensely. She is an amazing coach and spiritual guide. I highly recommend her in this wonderful capacity."
Nan L. of San Ramon, California
*YOU WILL GAIN UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR FAMILY'S DYNAMICS
My experience with Human Design
I am a Generator, and I don't have the energy to initiate, I must wait for something or someone in my external world to respond to.
What a huge relief---to finally understand that all the activities I had to force myself to do to get my business up and running (networking, sales calls, etc.) had all failed for the simple reason that I had entered into each and every one of them incorrectly for my Type. I tried, oh how I tried, ever so valiantly to "just do it", but it was an effort, it was discouraging, and it was very stressful. And it NEVER worked. Now I am content to live my strategy: to wait for something or someone in my external world to respond to.
The deep insights I have gained about my family of origin and our interactions with each other have helped me immensely. Had I known about Human Design, I could have saved myself a lot of grief and counseling and therapy bills. I wish Human Design had been available to my parents. They could have nurtured me in ways that allowed me to be who I truly am.
I wish I had known about Human Design when my son was little, and especially when he was a teenager. I would not have taken his behavior personally. It was not personal. It was his Design!
Here's a client's experience with the Human Design System:
"I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for the wonderful work we did together. It was so much more insightful than I imagined possible. Through your work, you were able to help me discern so much about not only my strategies, but those utilized by my family as well. The realization that this is how we are programmed, and that we all interpret the same thing based on these strategies, has helped us all be much more aware of the why and how of each of our responses. Knowing this information has improved our communication and relationships. It has also empowered my wife and me with the tools to help influence our children in a positive way, towards achieving the life of their dreams. I would recommend this basic training for all parents and couples."
Dr. TW, Hayward, California
Human Design has been invaluable in my EFT work. I use the charts to pinpoint where to tap and what issues are identified by the Open Centers. That shortcuts EFT which is already incredibly effective and rapid.
Click on this image of the course to purchase the Human Design for Everyone Homestudy Course by Karen Curry, my Human Design teacher. It's a wealth of Human Design information in an easy to understand and use format. I highly recommend it!
*EXPECTED RESULTS FROM EFT FAMILY COACHING
-You will gain a working understanding of your family dynamics
-You will learn to parent "by design"
-You will improve your current parenting style
-You will develop a Long Term Parenting Plan
-You will gain skills and the confidence to handle misbehavior in a win-win fashion
-You will experience peaceful bedtimes
-Your children's sleep patterns will improve (and so will their behavior at home and at school)
-You will get better sleep
-You will learn how to use EFT to eliminate fears, phobias, nightmares, upsets, and much more
-You will learn the P.E.A.C.E. Process and the Personal Peace Process
-You will learn how to use EFT to anchor the positive outcomes you desire
-You will gain confidence in your parenting skills
-You will gain access to valuable resources to further your parenting education
-You will learn how to become the parents you wish you'd had
-You will learn how to empower and support your child, to appreciate their unique gifts and personalities
-You will reduce stress in the family
My purpose is to guide you to the tools you need to create the positive changes you desire.
I am proud to contribute to School Made Much Easier. Please click on the link to learn more.
CRISTOFIR K. AVEN, EFT FAMILY COACH
I have had over 60 free trips around the Sun (birthdays). As I mentioned above, I have experienced how "not to do things" based on an incorrect use of my Human Design Type. Frankly, I am very tired of "pushing a rock up a hill" and never getting anywhere. Now I am gloriously on the path of living my Strategy and waiting to respond when someone or something shows up in my external world.
When that happens, I get to share my wealth of knowledge, wisdom and experience. I get to share my resources and help people become the parents they wish they'd had, blending my life experience and my training as an Indigo Family Coach, Certified Energy Coach and EFT Practitioner and Human Design Specialist.
EFT FAMILY COACHING SERVICES
I teach teleclasses on the topics referred to in this website.
For more information, please contact me at cristofirkaven@eftfamilycoach.com or 510-278-4941 (9-5 M-F; Pacific Time). I'll be happy to talk further with you about your needs and my services and answer any questions you may have.
I look forward to hearing from you. And I wish you all the best.
Cristofir K. Aven
I TEACH PEOPLE TO BE THE PARENTS THEY WISH THEY'D HAD.
(My sincere thanks to my teacher, Karen Curry, for additional content and to Dez Sellars of the United Kingdom for so generously letting us use the EFT for kids logo!)
I was somewhat skeptical at first but I was also very sure I wanted this to stop and quickly. I am amazed at the results. Not only are the emotions gone but also we were able to bring up the event, which was at the root. I followed her instructions as to what to do if the feeling resurfaced and each time I felt the slightest hint I would immediately tap and they would vanish. Now I have an incredible feeling of freedom, I am happy, peaceful and productive. It is truly a miracle."
